{"id":19250,"date":"2024-01-26T15:35:03","date_gmt":"2024-01-26T15:35:03","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/naturalleadership.eu\/?p=19250"},"modified":"2024-01-26T15:35:03","modified_gmt":"2024-01-26T15:35:03","slug":"solitude-date-hans-de-boer-2","status":"publish","type":"news","link":"https:\/\/fnl.apostrof.agency\/en\/news\/solitude-date-hans-de-boer-2\/","title":{"rendered":"Solitude date"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<div class=\"wp-block-g2p-wrapper\"><div class=\"container\"><div class=\"row\"><div class=\"col-12\">\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image aligncenter size-large is-resized\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/fnl.apostrof.agency\/app\/uploads\/2024\/01\/william-isted-GB3mwblalUM-unsplash-002-1024x681.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-19245\" style=\"width:608px;height:auto\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><em>By Hans de Boer<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">So, there I was, standing. Utterly alone. In the midst of the beautiful nature of the Abruzzo mountains in Italy. That, at least, was something. But still, quite &#8216;alone&#8217;. (As it turned out later, when it got dark, I was not that alone. But more on that later.)<br>Why was I there? Part of the &#8216;<a href=\"https:\/\/fnl.apostrof.agency\/en\/programmas\/\">Wilderness Leadership Transformation Program<\/a>&#8216;, by the FOUNDATION FOR NATURAL LEADERSHIP, was a so-called &#8217;24-hour Solo&#8217;. A period of time alone. By yourself, for 24 hours. And that Solo had now begun, on October 27, 2021.<br><br>Well, what do you do with yourself for 24 hours? I actually didn&#8217;t know. No watch, no mobile phone. How do you manage that?! I looked around and sat down on a large stone. After a while, I took out my Foundation notebook from my backpack and began to write. I never kept a diary. Then I started writing in one. And I wrote pages and pages.<br><br>As I sat there, writing, the rhythm of nature subtly carried me along. The position of the sun brought something new every moment. And I wrote it all down. Until it got dark. In late October, that&#8217;s early, as you know. But naturally, I felt it was time to end the day. Nature did its work.<br><br>Sometime during the night, I woke up. The moon was shining, and I could clearly see the surroundings from under my tent tarp. And there they were, no more than 30 meters away from me. A herd of about 10-12 deer. I not only heard them snorting, but I also smelled them! They were unaware of my presence and continued to graze calmly. After a while, they left. So, you&#8217;re not as alone in nature as you sometimes think\u2026<br><br>Those 24 hours flew by. I would have liked to stay longer in that forest. But on the other hand, I also longed to rejoin my fellow travelers. I was curious about how they had experienced their solitude. And after sitting for a while halfway between my bivouac and the cabin, our base that week, in the sun and soaking in the golden-yellow illuminated mountains around me, I walked back to the cabin in one go. Eager to share my &#8216;wow&#8217; experience with the others!<br><br>Recently, I read the research by Virginia Thomas on the positive effects of voluntary solitude: &#8220;Solitude Skills and the Private Self&#8221; (2023). Thomas emphasizes these positive effects in her research. She advocates for occasionally scheduling what she calls a &#8216;Solitude Date&#8217; for yourself.<br><br>The Solo with the Foundation was such a \u2018Solitude Date\u2019 for me. Solo, yet together with fellow travelers, each having their own solo moment. Sharing experiences afterwards added extra depth to the experience. 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